Stop Digging

Stop Digging (Video)

One of my father’s favorite sayings was, “If you find that you have dug yourself into a hole, the very first thing you have to do is stop digging.”  (I am not sure where he heard that, but I know I heard it from him frequently.)

We all get ourselves into trouble sometimes.  It may be in our professional or personal lives.  It may be in big ways or small.  It happens to all of us.

When we realize we have dug ourselves into a hole, we need to determine what we did that got us into that situation, and then stop doing it!  It sounds so simple, and yet it can be very difficult.  It forces us to honestly look at ourselves and our actions.  It then forces us to evaluate what we did, why, and make corrections.

Self-evaluation and change are difficult.  If we do not, however, we will find that we will never get out of the hole that we have dug for ourselves.




Great Success Requires Great Risk

Success and Risk (Video)

Risk comes in many forms.  Sometimes it is financial risk such as leaving a good paying job to become self-employed.  Sometimes it is a time risk such as investing the time in an education or new venture which takes time away from family.  Sometimes it is a relationship risk by saying something to someone about an issue that bothers you.

If we never take risks, however, we will never move beyond where we are.  Everyone has a different comfort level for risk.  This is understandable.  It is also important to understand, though, that if we only take small risks, we will only achieve small successes.  If this is acceptable to you, then there is no problem.  If, however, you want great success the only way to achieve it is to take great risks.

Taking a risk is, of course, risky.  If we take a big risk we may achieve big success.  Or we may fail and lose big.  If we take small risks and it does not work, then we only lose small.

There is no right or wrong.  If your comfort level for risk is low and you do not want to take big risks because you do not want the possibility of big losses, that is your decision.  But then accept that one reason you do not have big success is that you are not willing to take big risks.

Again, there is no right or wrong.  Only you can decide what is right for you.  Just accept responsibility for the consequences of your decisions.


Play Your Own Game

Play Your Own Game (Video)

There is a great deal of pressure for us to measure ourselves and our success by what others do.  To a certain extent, this can be good.  It can help us strive and achieve more of what we want.

Sometimes, though, it can be detrimental.  We may not want what others want.  We may not want to make the sacrifices necessary to achieve that level of success.  We may not have the knowledge, skills, and especially talent that others have and it may not be realistic to try to obtain them.

If we measure ourselves against others, we may not appreciate that the total life we have is what we really want.

This occurred to me when my husband and I were playing golf.  His golf game goals are different from mine.  He wants to shoot below 90.  I want to enjoy being outside, getting some exercise, and shooting a better average score this season than last season.  If I try to play his golf game, or if he tries to play mine, neither of use will be happy.  As long as we keep in mind what our individual goals are, we both have fun.

In your personal and professional life, play your own game.  Play the game that makes you happy and do not worry about what game others are playing.