Study for A’s? (Video Link)
I still remember something a high school teacher told my class many years ago. (I wish I could remember his name.) He said that if we study for A’s, we may or may not get them. However, if we study to truly learn and understand the information, the A’s will come automatically.
He was right. When I studied to learn the concepts and details of the material, the A’s came easily.
I think this concept can apply to our professional and personal lives as well.
If we work to get a raise or promotion, we may or may not get it. However, if we work to truly learn and understand our company and its practices, products, customers, and suppliers, and use this to excel at our jobs, we will find success.
If we work to improve our relationships, it may or may not happen. However, if we work to truly understand the people in our relationships and how they think and feel, how can it not improve our relationships?
What is your goal? To get an “A” or to really learn?
The Success We Think We Deserve (Video Link)
Have you seen the movie Perks of Being a Wallflower? There was a line in the movie that still resonates with me: “We accept the love we think we deserve.” I think this is true. I think we do accept the love we think we deserve. We accept the treatment from others we think we deserve. Unfortunately, some of us do not think we deserve very much.
This concept can also have an impact on our success. We achieve the level of success that we think we deserve, not the level of which we are capable. If we do not think we deserve to be successful, it will be extremely difficult to be successful. People are very good at self-sabotage, and they generally do not even realize it.
I encourage you to think carefully about what level of success you think you deserve. From there, think about why you do not think you deserve a higher level of success. This exercise can give you great insight on those thoughts that may be holding you back.