Don’t Act Like Prey! A Guide to Self Leadership for Women is at the New Title Showcase at BookExpo America in New York City! If you are going to BEA, please stop by booth 3105. (I won’t be there, but my books will.)
52 Weeks of Wisdom, A Guide to Self Leadership for Women is in the New Title Showcase at BookExpo America in New York City! If you happen to be at BEA, please look for my book at booth 3105. (I won’t be be there, but my books will.)
I would like to introduce you to my newest book, 52 Weeks of Wisdom, A Guide to Self Leadership for Women.
Before you can successfully lead, manage, or influence others, you must have control over your life. To do this, you need to be aware of what makes you you. What are your thoughts? Values? Beliefs? Passions? Goals? Motivations? Who are you, and why are you the way you are?
This book provides 52 reflections on these questions. Equally beneficial whether read straight through or over the course of a year, this book will help you gain a new perspective about you, your motivations, and your actions. It is an invaluable guide to help you create the life you want and the person you want to become.
In your life, what is right for you? Do you want to travel through your life on a super-highway, going far and fast? Do you want to travel through your life at a moderate level, on a state or county road? Or do you want to travel through your life on a trail, going slowly and enjoying all the sights and sounds?
There is no one right answer to this. Whatever is the right answer for you is the right answer.
Not that long ago, I found myself in a situation where there were many people trying to force me onto the super-highway. (At least it felt that way to me.) I tried to emulate them and fit on the super-highway. I changed my business plan to be more “successful” by their definition. The more I tried, the more frustrated I felt. I finally realized that was not for me.
I realized that I am more of a state and county road person. I like balance in my professional and personal life. I do not like going so far and fast that I do not have time to enjoy all the little things. The super-highway is not the way I want to travel through life.
Traveling along a trail is not for me, either. That method takes too long to accomplish things, and I like to achieve my goals and move on to new goals.
What is the right method of travel through life for you? It is your life and your choice.
As long as you take responsibility for the consequences of your actions, you can choose any route you want. Do not let others push you onto a route that is not right for you.
On one side, if you trust someone and are wrong, bad things can happen. I am sure you have lived through bad situations because you trusted someone who was not trustworthy. Most of us have been betrayed by someone we trusted at some point in our lives and probably do not want to repeat it. For me, it has happened in both my professional and personal life.
On another side, however, if we do not trust someone who is trustworthy, we can lose out on many good things. Think of all the good things that have happened in your life because you chose to trust someone and were right. I am sure your life is better for it. I know mine is.
Trusting someone is always a risk. I prefer, generally, to trust first and if the person is not trustworthy, at that point I can choose not to trust any more. If I choose immediately not to trust someone, I will never know what good things could have happened.
Having said that, I am also not going to be stupid. For example, I am not going to get into a stranger’s car no matter how much candy he offers.
There really is no good formula for deciding when to trust and when not to trust. Perhaps the best approach is to evaluate the level of risk in each situation and decide from there.