We all have things that we do not like to do. However, we also need to do these things to get the results that we want. It helps to focus on the results.
For example, I do not like sending out invoices. It’s paperwork that needs to be done, but it’s dull. However, I really like getting paid. When I focus on how I will get paid sooner if I send out invoices sooner, it makes the task more tolerable.
The same can apply to our personal lives. I like having a clean, uncluttered house. (I do not think I am obsessive. My husband might disagree.) I hate house cleaning. When I am cleaning house and focus on how much I do not want to do it, it makes a disagreeable situation worse. When I focus on how great the house will look when I am done, and how good that will make me feel, the situation is better.
Are there things in your life that you do not like to do? Would it help to focus on the results rather than the unenjoyable task?
In a previous segment I wrote about how in some companies departments become silos and do not work together or share information. I used that as an example of how we sometimes try to silo the different aspects of our lives and isolate them from each other. We can’t do that. We need to acknowledge all aspects of our lives, balance them, and take what we learn from one aspect to other aspects.
In this segment, I’d like to talk about how sometimes we silo ourselves internally. We might silo our strengths and weaknesses, for example. We have one silo containing strengths and one silo containing weaknesses and we look at them separately and treat them separately. We might have a silo for those things we like and one for those we don’t. We might even ignore some of our silos if we do not like what they contain.
Rather than doing that, it can be helpful to look at them together. What can we learn from our strengths that can help us manage our weaknesses? What can we learn from those things that we like to do to help us with those things that we don’t?
Human beings are very complex creatures. It can be tempting to compartmentalize aspects of ourselves to try to reduce the complexity. It’s as though we look at only one part of the picture at a time. Sometimes, though, we miss what the total picture looks like when we do this. Can you view yourself as a complete, complex person?
In some companies, departments become silos. Departments do not want to work with other departments or share information with other departments. This hurts the company as a whole. Every department in a company needs to work together for the company to be successful. I think we can do something similar to ourselves, too, if we are not careful.
I don’t think we can separate our professional lives from our personal lives. It is one life after all, just different aspects. Even within our professional life or our personal life, we have different roles that we need to fulfill. We might be a supervisor, an employee, a supplier, and a customer in our professional life. We might be a spouse, parent, child, and friend in our personal life.
Although we might need to focus on one role at a time, all the other roles are still there in the background. We can’t silo them off. We can’t isolate aspects of our life from each other. We need to acknowledge them all and find a way to balance them all.
We can also take what we learn from one role and apply it to other roles. For example, what we learn about customer service when we are the customer can be applied to situations when we are the supplier to improve the customer service we provide. What we learn about people in either our professional or personal life can be used in the other. For example, the concept of “leading by example” is not that different for employees as it is for children. If you want either your employees or children to be honest, then you have to be honest.
What it really comes down to is that we need to find a way to accept and balance all aspects of our lives and not pretend that only one exists at a time.