It’s Still a Good Day, a Good Life

dreamstime_xs_70038545I think most of us get frustrated and sometimes angry with things that happen every day.  People are inconsiderate.  Things don’t go the way we want.  Stuff happens.  These negative occurrences can get in the way of us recognizing and focusing on the positive things that are happening.

To manage this, something that I have asked myself for years is: “If this is the worst thing that happens today, will it still be a good day?”  Almost always the answer is “yes.”  As soon as I realize that it will still be a good day, it helps me put the situation into the proper perspective.  It makes it much easier for me to put the negative incident behind me and focus on what I want to do.

Sometimes, however, what happens is extremely bad and no, it is not a good day.  The worst day of my life was when my father passed away.  Nothing would have made that a good day.

What I have recently realized is that when the answer is, “No, it is not a good day” a good follow-up question is, “Is it still a good life?”  I have only used this once so far.  I had fostered and then adopted three kittens.  I had them for less than four months and had to have two of them euthanized on the same day.  It was one of the worst days of my life.  Realizing that even with losing them, I still had a good life, even a great life, helped put things into perspective and gave some comfort.

If you can use either of these questions to help you with the difficult situations you face, please use them.

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About Susan L. Farrell

Susan has always loved to learn. One BS in college was not enough; she obtained a double major with a minor. Years later, she returned to college for an MBA. Susan also believes deeply in learning everything possible from personal and professional experiences.Her first career out of college was with a national health care company. She quickly moved from the facility level to division, field, and corporate levels. When she left she had been an executive director with national responsibilities for several years.As owner of SLF Consulting & Training, LLC, Susan assisted clients with the challenges of combining customer satisfaction, cost control, and regulatory compliance. Her business acumen made her a sought-after speaker which led to a successful speaking career. This, in turn, led to her current writing career on self-empowerment for women.A normal extension of a love of learning is a love of teaching. Susan has accomplished this in various positions through teaching and training her employees, co-workers, associates, and customers. She has taught as an adjunct instructor at business colleges. She has informally coached employees, associates, and friends in advancing professionally and personally. She now assists others through her books, blogs, and newsletter.She is the author of "Don’t Act Like Prey! A Woman’s Guide to Self-Empowerment," a book on respectful assertiveness as an option to passive or aggressive behavior. "52 Weeks of Wisdom, A Woman’s Guide to Self-Empowerment," is designed to provide ideas to encourage women to think about what they do, why they do it, and do they want to change. "3 Good Choices: Change It, Accept It, or Leave It; A Woman’s Guide to Self-Empowerment" discusses how to make positive choices in all aspects of life.Susan lives in rural Wisconsin with her husband and three cats.

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