We need to balance all aspects of our professional and personal lives. We need to balance not only our time but also our energy, mental focus, and finances. We know this. We try to do it. The trickiest part, I think, is that our lives change and then we need to find a new balance.
If we change from being single to being married, it means finding a new balance. If we go from being married to divorced, that necessitates finding a new balance. We need to find new balances when we have children, as they grow, and again when they leave home. We find new balances as our parents age and need more assistance. Often if we start a new job or career and it requires more of our time, we need to find a new balance.
My husband is recently retired. Of course, he has a major balance change. Unlike some people, though, he is not having any difficulty in finding things he wants to do.
I’m finding that I also need to find a new balance related to his retirement. I still want a writing career. However, I also want to spend time with him. We enjoy traveling, hiking, golfing, and other activities that we feel we should do now while we physically can. My challenge is finding how to balance all the things I want to do.
My current plan is to consider myself semi-retired. I have found that it helps me feel less guilty about not spending as much time working as I did. I haven’t quite found a balance that feels “just right,” but that’s o.k. Often finding a new balance is as much of a process as it is a destination.