College Bound

1, SF_52WeeksOfWisdom_FINAL COVER_022215, front_edited-1, squareFarrell_Don'tActLikePrey_FULLCOVER_FINAL_090714, cropped_edited-1Are there any women in your life that are going to college this fall?  Someone who has graduated from high school and is starting the next phase of her education?  Someone who has been in the “real world” for awhile and has decided that a college degree is what she needs to accomplish her career goals?  Someone who is going back to college for an advanced degree?

If so, my books would be great gifts to let them know you are thinking of them, as well as assisting them in meeting their goals through self reflection.

Don’t Act Like Prey! A Guide to Self Leadership for Women uses stories and metaphors to discuss the costs of being passive, the costs of being aggressive, the benefits of being assertive, and how to find the delicate balance of assertiveness.

52 Weeks of Wisdom, A Guide to Self Leadership for Women provides 52 short stories to encourage the reader to think about what she does, why she does it, and does she want to change.

For additional information, and to order from your preferred supplier in your preferred format, go to SusanLFarrell.com.

Now Available as an eBook!

Farrell_Don'tActLikePrey_FULLCOVER_FINAL_090714, cropped_edited-1I am pleased to announce that my book Don’t Act Like Prey! A Guide to Self Leadership for Women is now available as an ebook.  The book discusses passive, aggressive, and assertive behavior.  When we are passive, we do not get what we need from others.  When we are aggressive, we damage relationships.  We need to consistently find the balance of being assertive.  The book includes tables to help the reader determine what the costs and benefits are to remaining the same and to changing her behavior.

To order, go to my website.  You can order for Kindle or Nook by clicking on the appropriate link.  Since tables to do not work so well for ebooks, be sure to download the tables.  Also, if you leave me your email address I will send you the special bonus chapter.

If you prefer hard copies of books, the book is available from both Amazon and Barnes and Noble.  Click on the appropriate link.

The holiday gift-giving season is approaching fast!  These books make great gifts for the women in your professional and professional life.

The 3 R’s of Assertiveness

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This is a very condensed presentation on assertiveness.  The title is The 3 R’s of Assertiveness.  (An alternative title is Don’t Act Like Prey!)  The 3 R’s are relationships, rights, and respect.

We all have professional and personal relationships.  Within each of these relationship we and the other party have certain rights.  When we do not respect ourselves and our rights, we are passive.  When we do not respect others and their rights, we are aggressive.  When we respect both ourselves and others, we are assertive.

I published this presentation previous in a series of five segments.  If you did not have an opportunity to watch the segments, I hope you will learn something in this one that will help you achieve the success you want.

Do No Harm, and…

Do No Harm, and… (Video)

“Do no harm” is a phrase that has been around for a very long time.  I think this is a good concept to live by, up to a point.

I read somewhere (I do not remember where) an addition to this phrase that I really like:  “Do no harm, and do not let anyone harm you.”

When we are aggressive, we harm others.  When we are passive, we let others harm us.  When we are assertive, we find the balance.  We do not harm others, and we do not let others harm us.

For more information and exercises to help you become more assertive, or assertive more consistently, see my book, Don’t Act Like Prey! available through www.SusanLFarrell.com or from Amazon.

Assertiveness (5), The Finish of the Story

The attached video is an excerpt from a very condensed presentation on assertiveness.  The title of the presentation is The 3 R’s of Assertiveness.  (An alternative title is Don’t Act Like Prey!.) 

Part 5 finishes the story started in the first segment.  It includes important points to remember when you are in a situation where you know the best thing is to be assertive.

This is the final segment of the condensed assertiveness presentation.  I hope you have learned at least one or two items that you want to implement to improve your success.

Assertiveness (4), Respect and Metaphors

The attached video is an excerpt from a very condensed presentation on assertiveness.  The title of the presentation is The 3 R’s of Assertiveness.  (An alternative title is Don’t Act Like Prey!.) 

Part 4, Respect, discusses the importance of respecting ourselves and our rights.  When we do not, we are passive.  It also discusses the importance of respecting others and their rights.  When we do not, we are aggressive.  By respecting ourselves and others, and acting accordingly, we are assertive.

It also discusses using wildlife metaphors for describing passive, aggressive, and assertive behavior.

Each week I will post the next section of the presentation.  Last week was on rights.  Next week will be the final, the finish of the story stared in section 1.

Assertiveness (3), Rights

The attached video is an excerpt from a very condensed presentation on assertiveness.  The title of the presentation is The 3 R’s of Assertiveness.  (An alternative title is Don’t Act Like Prey!.) 

Part 3, Rights, discusses how each party in any relationship has certain rights.  When we do not recognize and stand up for our rights, we are passive.  When we do not recognize that others have rights, we are aggressive.

Each week I will post the next section of the presentation.  Last week was on relationships.  Next week will be on respect.

Assertiveness (1), The Start of the Story

The attached video is an excerpt from a very condensed presentation on assertiveness.  The title of the presentation is The 3 R’s of Assertiveness.  (An alternative title is Don’t Act Like Prey!.)

The 3 R’s are relationships, rights, and respect.  If we can remember these three, it becomes easier to be assertive in any situation rather than passive or aggressive.

Part 1, The Start of the Story, includes a work experience I had where I knew I needed to be assertive, but did not know immediately how to do that.

Each week I will post the next section of the presentation.  Next week will be on relationships.

 

Cougars

Cougars (Video)

This blog provides the background information to the attached video clip.  The clip is from an assertiveness presentation I did for The Business Building Academy.

In my presentation on assertiveness, Don’t Act Like Prey!, I use wildlife metaphors to describe passive, aggressive, and assertive behaviors.  This clip is the result of me explaining why I use the term mountain lions instead of cougars, even though scientifically “cougar” is the better term.

Perhaps you already know the reason!

The 3 R’s of Assertiveness

SF_DontActLikePrey_F1.inddA simple method to consistently be assertive (not passive or aggressive) is to use the 3 R’s.  Relationships, Rights, Respect.

We are all involved in professional and personal relationships.

Within each of these relationships, we and the other person have certain rights.

It is necessary that we treat ourselves and others, our rights and their rights, with respect.

For more information, and tools to assist you in becoming assertive more consistently, please see my book, Don’t Act Like Prey!  You can order it through my website, http://www.susanlfarrell.com/Section/Shop/index.html.  If you leave me your email address, I will send you a special bonus chapter.

If this is a topic that would benefit your organization, association, or group, please contact me for speaking availability.  Additional information is available at http://www.susanlfarrell.com/Section/Event_Planners/index.html.

Thank you!