Equal Partnerships

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Throughout these blogs we have talked about you.  Your rights.  Your responsibilities.  Your choices.  Your life.

It is necessary to remember, though, that everything we have discussed applies to everyone.  This means, that if you are in a committed relationship, your partner is just as important as you are.  The life he wants is just as important as the life you want.  Not more important, but as important.

I think a committed relationship should be an equal partnership.  Each person should work equally hard, take on equal responsibility, and give as much support as he or she expects to receive.  It is necessary for both people to work together to determine how their life together will meet their individual desires and goals.  It may take some negotiating.

The opposite of an equal partnership is a double standard.  That is where it is all about one person and about what that one person wants.  If you are in a double standard relationship, and it is all about him, can you change things?  If not, is it worth staying in that relationship?  If you are in a double standard relationship, and it is all about you, remember that he has the same rights as you do and can leave you.  You might want to make changes before that happens.

An equal partnership is a beautiful relationship.  I recommend that you always remember that your partner, and what he wants, is as important as you, and what you want.

It is 2015; What Have You Done?

hIt is 2015, another new year.  Have you made your goals and plans for this year?  Have you done anything to accomplish them yet?  Are you doing even one thing differently this year than you did last year to achieve what you want this year?

It is easy to get excited about another new year, about the things that we will do this year that we have not done before.  The difficulty is in carrying out the plans.  We still have all the day-to-day commitments and tasks that we did a week or two ago.  Nothing has changed, except the number on the calendar.  Nothing will change, if we do not change.

Most people do not accomplish their New Year’s resolutions.  Do not be one of them!  Commit now, implement your plans now, to achieve the professional and personal success you want in 2015.

Finish What You Start

Finish What You Start (Video)

For me, starting projects is easy.  New projects are fun and exciting.  The difficulty is in finishing them.  Finishing is what matters, however.  It is in finishing the project that we get the results we want.

There are many reasons we do not finish what we start.  We get busy, we get tired, or other things come up.  Sometimes we do not finish out of fear.  If we do finish, things may change.  Sometimes we do not finish because we did not create and implement a plan to make the change happen. 

Often we do not finish because we did not make a commitment.  Talk is not enough.  We have to take action.  And usually we have to take action over and over again.

I have a friend who has told me for the past 15 years that her boss is horrible and that she has to get a new job.  For 15 years I have agreed with her.  Although she has made a few forays into the job market, she has never really committed to leaving her current job.  She has never finished what she starts—finding a new job.

I have another friend who almost 20 years ago decided he wanted to be a writer.  He has never finished a manuscript.  Since he has not finished one, he has never had one to sell.  He has never really made the commitment to investing the time and energy it takes to be successful as a writer.

I have many friends who have been very successful in new careers, new business ventures, and even new lives.  I admire them greatly!  I do not think that, in general, they are any smarter than my other two friends.  I also do not thing they have any more luck.  What they do have is the commitment to finish what they start, no matter what happens.

Besides commitment, focusing on the result we want to achieve can help us find the motivation and dedication to finish.  Finishing matters!