Second Chances

Should you give someone a second chance? I think that depends.

None of us are perfect. We all make mistakes. Generally, I think we should give people a second chance. If they make the same mistake again, we don’t need to give them a third chance.

There are times, though, when the harm people do to us is so great that they do not deserve a second chance. We do not need to take the risk that they will harm us again. If that is our choice, then we do not need to feel guilty about it. And the more they try to make us feel guilty, the more they probably do not deserve a second chance.

Do No Harm, and…

Do No Harm, and… (Video)

“Do no harm” is a phrase that has been around for a very long time.  I think this is a good concept to live by, up to a point.

I read somewhere (I do not remember where) an addition to this phrase that I really like:  “Do no harm, and do not let anyone harm you.”

When we are aggressive, we harm others.  When we are passive, we let others harm us.  When we are assertive, we find the balance.  We do not harm others, and we do not let others harm us.

For more information and exercises to help you become more assertive, or assertive more consistently, see my book, Don’t Act Like Prey! available through or from Amazon.