Learning to Live with a New Normal

When my mother passed away, I realized that I was going to need to learn to live with a new normal—a life without her in it. In talking with friends, I realized that in life we are continuously learning to live with new normal.

Life is normal when we are children and living with our parents. No matter what it’s like, it’s normal to us. It changes when we move out, for college or other reasons, and we learn to live with a new normal. It changes again when we marry, have children, the children move out, our careers change, other changes occur, and each time we adjust to a new normal. Our normal life changes when we lose someone, through death, divorce, or other circumstances, and once again we are faced with learning to live with a new normal.

Change is a part of life. And not all change is bad. Many changes we face are very positive and lead to a better “normal” life than what we had before. We might as well enjoy the “normal” life we currently have while we have it, because it will change, and we will need to learn, again, to live with a new normal.

Play the Right Game

Some people are very good at winning the game they are playing. Unfortunately, they might be playing the wrong game.

If they are playing to win their game at all costs and in the process take advantage of people, hurt people, or think only of themselves, they might win that game. But they will lose in the most important game of all—life.

What game are you playing? That question might be more important than whether you are winning.

Reading too Fast

dreamstime_xs_72535759I’m a fast reader; I always have been.  There are good aspects to this.  I can read many books in a short period of time and I can grasp the overall stories well.  The drawback is that I miss many of the details.  I don’t pick up on all the subtleties of the book.

Sometimes I think we do this with life.  We go too fast.  We rush through to see what happens, to get to the end.  In the process, we miss out on the little things, the details, that make life worthwhile.

At least with books, we can go back and re-read them to experience the things we missed the first time.  We can’t do that with life.  Once an experience is over, it’s over.  We can remember it, but we can’t relive it.

Would your life be richer if you slowed down a bit and savored all that was happening in the moment?